Dear Jyoti,
It has become a kind of a ritual that I write to you or for you, every year on this date. Sometimes the words are published and set free in the universe, sometimes they rest in the quiet corners of my drafts. But, every year, I wonder what you must be going through right now, what your course of life would have been, had you just got an auto that night and reached home safe, what you felt during those last moments and another thousand whats, hows and what-ifs. To all those questions, there might be different answers but only one thing resonates, that this country has failed you, in life, in death and in-between those two as well. If there were a fourth aspect to it, India would have failed you there as well.
To tell you the truth, nothing much has changed since you left. Media did it’s job of making a martyr out of you and naming you Nirbhaya, the fearless but that’s about it. I was stupid to fall into traps of hope they gave us and maybe that’s why it hurts so much. You were made into a political agenda and all those politicians tried to use it to the best of their abilities. Three years today, and one of the monsters who pulled out your intestines will walk out of custody in a couple of days. And he’ll be handed over a sum of Rs 10,000 to start over. How we love our boys! Because, well,men will be men and they make mistakes, so what! That doesn’t mean they should be punished. If someone was old enough to rape, it doesn’t necessarily mean he is old enough to be punished. Wait, wasn’t that rape and murder, and ‘rarest of rare’ at the same time. Well, that bastard was two months short of being 18, so he wins. Yes, no questions asked. He gets his money and his life back. He makes his parents proud for giving birth to a boy. Your parents shed a million tears for the things you had to go through and lead a life remembering and cursing the day.
India has not only failed you, my dear. It has failed all of us who prayed for you, who wanted you to live, who stood there holding candles asking for justice and change in laws. It’s possible to buy justice in this nation, but it’s not possible to let the rapists know that they are not wanted here. We will cajole them, serve them, defend them, until we feel they have been reformed. And reform, they won’t. I can’t believe it is so difficult to understand that. Sigh.
My tears don’t stop every time I think of you, and that’s not just on Dec 16th every year. You’re on my mind many a times and I wish I had known you while you were here. I got to know a little more about you through India’s Daughter and I am really thankful to Leslee Udwin for making the film. Once again, the nation couldn’t stand the fact that she dared to bring out the horrible faces and attitudes of the rapists out in the public. Those who feel they were protecting the false dignity of the nation by banning the film don’t know that they were only protecting the identities of those rapists. You, on the other hand were a nation wide phenomenon and they were not really protecting you. By the way, is there any need to protect the dead?
I am sorry, Jyoti. India is no country for strong women like you. You chose a wrong nation to be born in, so technically, it was your fault. If there is reincarnation, be wise and choose a better country this time, a country which can protect you and give you justice. India is not that country because it loves it’s false honor and pride more than it’s real flesh and blood daughters.
May the scars heal and the memories fade.
India’s Another Daughter.
Alok Singhal
I never had (even have) any hopes from the judicial system of India…it is all for the rich and influential brats!
Alas!
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Alas. That is the only word I have.
Arun
Yes we need to be really sorry for Jyoti. As a nation we failed her 🙁
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Yes, India failed her and every woman of the country.
Manjulika Pramod
We failed her and we fail everyday in protecting our women from the ogling eyes, pervert gestures and more… In India, they know how to make a news of rape but no one knows how to prevent it..
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Sigh. 🙁 I have no words left.
Rekha
I feel your words. I too wrote about it and wrote about it, because as other daughters of India, that is one thing we can do. And must do.
It’s scary how quickly the roar died down; now not even a mewl remains. India did indeed fail her, and continues to, every day.
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If only words could make a difference, I would have typed my until forever.
Rekha
It’s really sad. Goes on to show how much a life matters to this country that worships gods and goddesses religiously.
Renuka
Very sad, the juvenile with henious crime will walk free, instead of passing the bill in parliament, dirty politics is being played, n we fail.all the girls in our country, rapes are increasing as the message we send to rapists is very mild, old wake up policy makers save our girls from shame n pain.
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Yes, that’s what India has given us – pain. Their shame, our pain.
manik
And our politicians instead of improving the situation for our sisters n daughters r busy in enjoying foreign trips and playing dirty politics…seriously, we have failed miserably and what I can for see we will keeping on failing year after year, decade after decade…..Shame on you the so called leaders of India…..